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Practice 3. Functions Checklist

This page helps you see how your relationship “works” day to day.
Functions are the actions that keep your connection alive — both shared and personal.
Checking them together shows what is strong and what could use more care.

You’ll need: pen, paper (or this page)
Time: 15–20 minutes
Use when:

  • You want to understand your relationship’s “engine”
  • You’re curious where balance is healthy and where it’s shaky
  • You want to connect personal habits with shared routines

1. Shared functions

  • ☐ Communication — discussing emotions and issues
  • ☐ Conflicts — how we handle conflict and restore trust
  • ☐ Support — emotional (listening, hugging)
  • ☐ Support — practical (help with tasks)
  • ☐ Support — financial (contributions, mutual protection)
  • ☐ Cooperation — division of responsibilities
  • ☐ Cooperation — flexibility (switching roles)
  • ☐ Intimacy — physical (sex, touch)
  • ☐ Intimacy — emotional (trust, openness)
  • ☐ Intimacy — intellectual (shared discussions)
  • ☐ Joint development — projects, hobbies, learning
  • ☐ Joint development — traditions and rituals
  • ☐ Joint development — new experiences

2. Personal functions

  • ☐ Self-care — health, rest, stress management
  • ☐ Emotional work — self-reflection, self-regulation
  • ☐ Self-worth — sense of personal significance
  • ☐ Hobbies and creativity — music, drawing, sports, etc.
  • ☐ Social connections — friends, community
  • ☐ Profession and career — contribution, achievements
  • ☐ Personal development — learning, skills
  • ☐ Spiritual practices — faith, philosophy, meditation
  • ☐ Novelty — experiments, travel
  • ☐ Autonomy — personal space, time for oneself

My notes and additions






Outcome: A clear picture of how personal and shared functions are working today — strengths to appreciate and areas to improve.