Practice 8. Retrospective Template¶

A retrospective is a gentle joint discussion to reflect on your relationship.
It helps you notice what’s working, what’s hard, and where small improvements can make life together better.
Holding it once a month or once a quarter keeps your connection fresh and intentional.

You’ll need: pen, paper (or this page)
Time: 30–40 minutes
Use when:

You want to check in regularly, not just when problems appear
You feel stuck in routines and want to reflect together
You want a safe space to share gratitude and requests

Questions for discussion¶

1. What went well for us during this period?¶

2. What was the hardest?¶

3. What can we do differently next time?¶

4. What am I grateful to you for?¶

5. What do I promise to try to change or improve?¶

Conclusion¶

A retrospective is not about blame. It’s a respectful search for improvements that also highlights appreciation.

Outcome: A balanced view of your relationship — celebrating wins, understanding struggles, and choosing one or two changes to carry forward.