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Practice 11. Personal Functions

This page helps you reflect on which personal functions support your own life and your relationship.
When these functions are steady, they lighten the load on shared ones and give both partners more energy for connection.

You’ll need: pen, paper (or this page)
Time: 15–20 minutes
Use when:

  • You feel drained or out of balance
  • You want to see how your personal habits affect the relationship
  • You want to strengthen your “roots” so the “we” can grow stronger

Personal functions

  • ☐ Self-care — health, rest, stress management
  • ☐ Emotional work — self-reflection, self-regulation
  • ☐ Self-worth — sense of personal significance
  • ☐ Hobbies and creativity — music, drawing, sports, etc.
  • ☐ Social connections — friends, community
  • ☐ Profession and career — contribution, achievements
  • ☐ Personal development — learning, skills
  • ☐ Spiritual practices — faith, philosophy, meditation
  • ☐ Novelty — experiments, travel
  • ☐ Autonomy — personal space, time for oneself

My notes

What I do well:






What I want to improve:






Conclusion

Personal functions are the roots of a healthy relationship. Outcome: By noticing and nurturing them, you create stability for yourself and harmony for the couple.